You really don’t have a weight problem

On my run today, I was accompanied by Kelly Roberts of Run, Selfie, Repeat. Not in person but via her inspirational podcast which I adore and often listen to on my run. The episode I listened to today was titled ‘FAT‘ and, as the name suggests, was about body image and how women feel about themselves.

To say it resonated is a huge understatement. I could say I have spent my entire life struggling with my weight but that would be inaccurate. I have spent all my life struggling with liking my body. I look back at photos of myself from high school, when I hated my body the most, yet I wouldn’t have been that far out of the clinical healthy weight range.

I spent a lot of time comparing myself to others and deciding I didn’t meet some mysterious benchmark of ‘enough’. I’m not sure what this benchmark was nor what I thought would happen once I got there but a lot of things were put on hold until that day. I’ll be happier…..if I look like that. I’ll have more friends…..if I look like that. I’ll get that guy……if I look like that. If only I had realised at the time that I was already enough, I might have spent much more time enjoying the life I had rather than wishing for a different one. Hindsight – it’s a beautiful thing.

I’m pleased to say it may have taken me 4 decades of existence but I’m finally happy with my body. The wobbly bits, the firm bits, the wrinkly bits – all of it. My body is amazing. It has carried me over long distances with very little complaint. It has regenerated itself after injury. It has changed over this running journey and I wear those changes with pride. I do weigh myself, mostly to be aware of my weight and definitely not to beat myself up with it. I eat pretty healthy and sometimes need to tighten this focus – not to look different but because thinking about what I eat makes me feel better and run stronger. Sometimes I fall back into the trap of comparing myself to others but I’m more likely to look around at my local parkrun or running event and marvel at the diversity of body shapes and sizes and how none of that appears to give any hint as to how fast, how far or how strong a runner you are. Nor how much tenacity, persistence and resilience is contained within.

And that reminds me. I am enough.


5 thoughts on “You really don’t have a weight problem

  1. Oh man, I relate to ALL of this so much. My life for so long was “if only I could reach this weight than all of my other problems would disappear.” I’ve actually done that with money as well–weight and money–outside things that I hoped would change my insides. I think we are the lucky ones, there are women that spend their WHOLE lives hating they bodies. I feel like I have even more appreciation for my body and for its resilience because of what I have put it through in the past; I’m amazed everyday by what it can do, and it finally trusts me and knows that I will treat it well. Really enjoyed this post, thanks so much!


  2. foodrebel73 says:

    Thank you for sharing your story! I know I can relate 100%! I think as we get older we learn to embrace what we are. If I could go back in time to when I didn’t struggle with body image, honestly… I don’t think that time was ever prevalent. I always tell myself that “it took me 43 years to get here… work with what you got and move on”. Now it truly is what it is! But it took me a very long time to get to this point. Thank you again so much for posting this , I’m sure there are so many of us out there!

    Please check out my blog and you will get an idea of what I mean! Thank you!!


    • Thanks for the comment and it’s great to hear my story resonated with you. We’re definitely not alone – so many people struggle with body image and need to do exactly what you said – embrace who we are 🙂

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